So the obvious question is where do those stories we are telling ourselves come from? Or maybe an even better question, if our lives are storied creations then where and from whom did we learn how to story tell?
Pondering, reflecting and answer these questions is a million dollar insight. And lots of learnings happen along the way. What we all come to find out is we have been scripted. In fact therapists call our enacted stories scripts and schemas. Early in our lives we start living into the accepted scripts of those closest to us. Parents, caregivers, and soon after that school teachers, music and art teachers and coaches.
We could stop right here and start identifying where stories I am telling myself today about my lack of ability, or insecurities, or feelings of inferiority, or arrogant ego, or narcissism all start with some storied script I inherited or picked up along the way. The sources are various, insidious and cryptic. But they are the narratives that literally bring form to our lives.
This is why the last post posed the question how much of our life is fact or fiction. We would like to think we are the authors of our lives but the truth is self authorship is a very high level of human development and takes significant self awareness leading to self reflection.
What are some of the the fictions you are telling yourself these days? How long has that story been playing? Transformation, real metamorphosis comes when we change the running commentary in our heads. Contrary to popular evangelical nonsense that Paul wanted people to memorize scripture, this is the meaning of Romans 12:1-2. Transformation comes by renewing the story in your mind, by changing the way your mind makes meaning of yourself and your world.
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